Call Me Maybe? The Importance of Communication

Human Nature

We have all been guilty of it, at one time or another: miscommunication. We have all been at the receiving end as well. It is a part of human nature to speak, without thinking our thoughts through. We react quickly, far often more than we, slow down and process new information, before we respond. It is not only misperception and befuddlement that spoils an otherwise pleasant conversation. It is our ego-centric view. Our self-centeredness. 

Yet, our personal approach of self-preservation is a necessary component of our humanity. So how can we avoid it? It is built into our survival instincts. We can’t entirely. We can lessen its stronghold, be more generous and self-less. But, for most of us, our survival instincts are permanent and thank goodness. But, with a concerted effort we can be more mindful of this and make adjustments accordingly.

Another aspect of human nature is communication. The need to be heard and understood is ingrained, so deeply within us, that when we become isolated or disenfranchised, we feel lost. More impacting though, is when we need information and it is withheld or omitted. This stings. Especially when it would have been a very easy gesture, to have been included in the transfer of information. Whether deliberate or accidental, it can still be an overwhelming blow to both ego and relationships.

Hello? Is Anybody Out There?

This week, I have seen many situations directed toward me or others, where assumptions have been made and lapse in correspondence has occurred. Intercommunication, especially in the field of education, is vital if we are to do what is best for every student. Collaboration and exchange of ideas is what makes this field, so progressive and adaptive. But, daily dissemination of details and data is critical. Without it, students can fall in the gaps. Even more so, teachers can feel vulnerable and debilitated.

I am a pretty calm and flexible individual. I listen intently, honestly, because I do not want to miss anything or be left out. I want to figure out how to help people, make sure everyone has a voice. If something goes amiss, I am quick to adjust. But, if you know that something is amiss and neglect to give me a heads up, this is both frustrating and unfair. Whether deliberate or not, it is unjust. We all want to make sure things are going smoothly for our students. The only way to make sure there is cohesion and consistency is to have common goals and uniform expectations. If decisions are made without a consensus, this can’t happen. It is very easy to keep the flow of information, open and directed. It just takes a mindful spirit and a considerate mindset.

Change comes not from a singular view, but a communal uprising of commonality, of judgment and action. When we talk to one another, actually listen, we see the big picture. We visualize, how all of us carries a vision that when combined, creates a landscape of progress and growth. Listen for the distress calls and every ship will make it back to shore safely. Be a beacon of hope and even the roughest of seas, will be calm enough, for everyone to reach the shore.

I Am Right Here, Good Morning Friend

It just takes observation and consideration. Every day, we need to pause, listen and make sure that everyone around us, feels a part of the community. It is our human nature to want to belong, to feel connected, and to be respected. When we are, the community thrives and can handle any upset that comes its way. When our teacher growth-mindset meets mindfulness, the possibilities are endless.

As a person who has miscommunicated, I know that my words speak as loud as my actions. As an individual who has been ignored, disregarded and passed over, I ask everyone, to remember to be cognizant and considerate, of the basic human need to be accepted and included. To step outside your classrooms and actively seek an audience, with those around you. You never know who needs your kindness and generosity, the most today. A single word of encouragement, a genuine smile, can change an outlook.