What We Seek (359)

As humans we seek a lot of things: comfort, joy, love, companionship. We seek out a form of financial security. A place to live. Transportation. We have needs, food, water, shelter. We seek a secure existence, with out pain or fear. Our brains actively seek moments of calm- yet we often get stuck in idle mode, our flight or flight chemicals surging through our veins. Causing anxiety, depression, exhaustion.

This time of year- the holidays, often exasperates the situation. We are seeking a joyful time with family and friends. The trimming parties, the gifts, the celebrations. But these days we are only experiencing them virtually. It is heightening our hypothalmus- setting our emotional autonomic nervous systems a blaze. We are in turmoil in every way imaginable.

Financially we are strapped. Emotionally we are drained. Physically we are worn down. Muscles aching from the weight of the emotional turbulence. If we are isolating alone- absence is heavy. If we are quarantining as a group- we are seeking privacy. It is a no win situation. Then you add the holidays on top of it. These holidays may not be as joyful for some as for others.

We seek moments of joy- and the are there. We just, at least recently have been more focused on negative things- a tumultuous election, delays in stimulus checks, contagion and shut downs. New strains. Misinformation, miscommunication and simple thievery. Thievery of our security. Thievery of our well-being. Thievery of our freedom. But at times of war- we must remember that freedom might be lost temporarily. These days we are at war, battle with information and distrust and of course we are fighting a heavy tolled war against a virus.

When we are seeking things we can not control- we often forget we have many things we can control. Our attitude, positivity, optimism and daily intentions. Our values, our goals, our determination and our resilience. When we are walking through our days, we must remember to ask ourselves "What an I control in this situation?" We need to remember that there is a lot we can in fact control.

This is our history unfolding. Our circumstances shaping our situation. We must continue to seek- solace, sanctuary and solid footing. We must continue to seek answers, truth and justice. We must remember every one of us is human and deserving of financial stability and the ability to take care of ourselves. We seek family during these times- not only because of the holiday but because that is what allows us to achieve what we seek.

Family is the tie, the tether, the cord that allows us to stretch ourselves and then return to the center. Family is the eventuality of contentment and security. Whether your family is build on genetics or friendship- it is family. The bond stronger than most. So listen and seek the moments that remind you of the positivity in the world- not the negative. 

Seek the joy. Seek the wonder. Seek the opportunities around you for they are the answers to what you need. They are the hug, smile and honesty we all seek these days. Be the one- others need and others will be yours as well. This is a season to be jolly as the old adage says- but it is also a season of reflection and change- just ask Ebenezer Scrooge. 

So find the reason to better yourself now- it is not a single day, a season or a year- it is a daily momentum that we seek- can you hear the drum beat- the cadence, the rhythm?